There is always that one guy we can rely on in a girls life, the guy that is always their for us through thick and thin, whom we can count on to get us through our daily challenges and always depend on.... no I'm not talking about Gok Wan, I'm talking about our dads. Dads are like belly buttons; it’s a part of you that you may not necessarily need however every person is born with one. Yes we can count on our fathers to be our protector, provider and comforter. But there does come a time in every girl’s life when the innocent child that our daddies love and cherish develops into a mature woman. And like every woman, we have needs even if our dad doesn't approve. So as the circle of life goes: we're born, we grow up, we spend our lives 'trying' to find a mate and if you happen to be one of the lucky ones and succeed in doing this, you breed, teach, nurture, care, get old and then die. You know how it goes.
However in this process there is one tricky little
thing that most of us have to endure… dating. Now dating is like Russian
roulette, you never quite know what you’re going to get. Sometimes you feel you
have finally found your soul mate and do some sort of Rocky style victory
dance, pumping fists in the air with accomplishment. Other times you feel like
faking an epileptic fit just to get you out of the disaster date which one of
your friends probably set up for you. However soldiering on like the strong
independent women we are, we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and
patiently carry on trying on different fellas to see which one fits best.
But when it comes choosing our potential life
partners, the common traits that women look for in their partner is the usual factors to protect her , provide for her and comfort her… does this remind you of anyone. In reality when it comes to relationships we
are looking for similar qualities as a ‘father’ figure. Ever heard of the saying
‘I feel like I’ve known him my whole life’ it’s probably more appropriate than you think, weighing up
your boyfriend and your dad’s personality traits the most likely result is that in
actual fact they are the same person. Now of course I’m not saying that we are
now going to be let loose in the streets preying on the next guy wearing cord
jeans and a tweed waistcoat, no one wants to be reminded of the guy who changed their behinds as an infant as the new guy who now gropes it.
Dr. Peggy Drexler has even wrote on a book on this
matter ‘Our Fathers Ourselves: Daughters,
Fathers and the Changing Amercian Family.’
In the book Dr. Drexler stated 'One interesting finding was that many women said
they demanded good treatment from romantic partners because of the way their
dads had treated them - both good and bad. Some women liked the gallantry with
which their dads had treated them and demanded it from their boyfriends; others
were so wounded by their fathers' insensitivity that they refused to tolerate
it from the men they dated.’
So
In conclusion I guess Freud was right, daughters want to marry their dads and
sons secretly want to marry their mothers. Who’d of thought it hey!
Ah
well, it’s not all bad at least you know that you’re mum will like them ;)
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